I mentioned in my last post that I have been trying to be more intentional in how I live my life in general and in my marriage specifically. It is so easy to get up each day and do what we do with little thought or intention and before we know it we have strung together day after day of unintentional living.
This can be especially true in our relationships. I have been married for over 30 years and can attest to this first hand. I am not saying that our lives should be one exciting adventure after another, because let's face it the cleaning and the laundry won't do themselves, but I am trying to create small intentional moments everyday.
This might look different for everyone. For us it could be as simple as seeking each other out for a cup of coffee together and a little bit of face to face talk time. Or me opening up a folding chair in the garage while he does whatever men do in the garage. Or making up a batch of his favorite chocolate chip cookies. I find even tagging along while he runs his errands gives us talking time to and from the Home Depot.
For me, he might bring me a cup of coffee in bed or put a few pretty flowers in my garden to surprise me or even fix a door that's sticking. Just little things...
A perfect example was last Sunday after church. The grand kids were away with their mom and I had a couple of hours to myself so I decided to head to Target to stroll the aisles at my leisure without having to go through the Lego section. I didn't have money to buy anything except maybe a bag of popcorn but just the time alone was enough. As I was heading out the door my husband handed me a twenty and told me to buy something for myself. Swoon...the little things.
Now before you start thinking that we have a marriage without strife or friction let me set you straight. My man and I are as different as night and day and our thirty plus years together have been hard earned at times. We are both fiercely independent and could easily live together without these moments for weeks on end. But the bottom line is that I love him and he loves me and I don't want that to happen, so these little intentional moments are vital to us.
You may not be married or you may be married and spending those moments together may be natural for you, but I am sure there are other relationships you have that could benefit from intentional living. How about a parent, or a child, or a sibling, or a real life in person friend?
Life is short and the ones we love are not guaranteed to be here for ever. Let's make the most of time we have and live it on purpose.